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How to get angry and seek healthy revenge

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha. You probably think I’ve lost it – Sarah J Webb who prides herself on spreading peace and happiness worldwide is writing about getting angry and seeking revenge? What [...]

Why you got cheated on

"Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up," Patti Callahan Henry A lot of people who come to me were engaged or married before events twisted and forced them to become the “other man” or “other woman”. The shame overwhelming, often as they continued to support their partner in this situation – desperately [...]

By | October 6th, 2017|All posts, Toxic Relationships, Your Self-Love|0 Comments

How to overcome your obsessive thoughts

  YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING ME?! So what you’re saying is: I’m in a relationship where I’m tormented to the edge of my sanity. I fight my deepest fears, my self-doubt, my shame, guilt and guilt and I march myself out of there (ok, more drag myself on the ground out of there) with [...]

How to overcome mistrust and paranoia – PART 2

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” George MacDonald   I want to share my story about trust – because it’s been a journey to get it back and it didn’t come easily to me either! My partner (current) and I have known each other for ten years. We met online dating [...]

How to overcome mistrust and paranoia – PART 1

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” Frank Crane This article looks at the paranoia and trust issues you may have just after you leave a toxic relationship and how to overcome them. There is a lot of fear when these relationships [...]

How to stay positive once you leave a toxic relationship

Imagine this: A friend of yours is dating someone you know isn’t good for them. You even have photo evidence. You tell them, and tell them, and show them and show them. And they keep getting their heart broken and then heading straight back for more. (It’s an addiction but it’s pretty hard to see [...]

6 tips to smash the fantasy in your head

Leaving a toxic relationship is always more challenging than leaving a healthy relationship because of the fantasy etched in our minds of who the person was that we were with. I get asked a lot about how to override that fantasy of the person to avoid getting sucked back into the relationship where you have [...]

How to behave assertively after a toxic relationship

Toxic relationships teach us a lot ... but if there's ever a really good time to learn assertive communication, it's in the space - and in the silence - following a toxic relationship. This is where you should shift your focus to you anyway, but it's also when it can be most tempting to carry [...]

Moving out VERSUS Moving on

The most exciting and terrifying words people say in my Facebook group - 'Screw you, I'm choosing me': "I've moved out" It's exciting: YEAH!! We want to celebrate with you!!! It's terrifying: Sadly this means different things for different people. And it doesn't necessarily calculate to moving on. In fact about 80% of people in [...]

By | June 14th, 2017|All posts, Toxic Relationships, Your Self-Love|1 Comment

What to do when you can’t do No Contact? The Gray Rock Method

Whether you work with your narcissist, co-parent, or feel as though No Contact is simply not an option. There is another method you can try to detatch from your narcissist: Gray Rock. This is for anyone who can’t do No Contact No matter what the reason – if you need to keep contact with a [...]