/Healthy Relationships

Articles to assist healthy relationships

How to get angry and seek healthy revenge

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha. You probably think I’ve lost it – Sarah J Webb who prides herself on spreading peace and happiness worldwide is writing about getting angry and seeking revenge? What [...]

How to overcome your obsessive thoughts

  YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING ME?! So what you’re saying is: I’m in a relationship where I’m tormented to the edge of my sanity. I fight my deepest fears, my self-doubt, my shame, guilt and guilt and I march myself out of there (ok, more drag myself on the ground out of there) with [...]

How to overcome mistrust and paranoia – PART 2

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” George MacDonald   I want to share my story about trust – because it’s been a journey to get it back and it didn’t come easily to me either! My partner (current) and I have known each other for ten years. We met online dating [...]

How to overcome mistrust and paranoia – PART 1

“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” Frank Crane This article looks at the paranoia and trust issues you may have just after you leave a toxic relationship and how to overcome them. There is a lot of fear when these relationships [...]

How to behave assertively after a toxic relationship

Toxic relationships teach us a lot ... but if there's ever a really good time to learn assertive communication, it's in the space - and in the silence - following a toxic relationship. This is where you should shift your focus to you anyway, but it's also when it can be most tempting to carry [...]

How to fast-track your way to acceptance

TOOT! TOOT!!! All aboard the acceptance express!!! Here's how you can fast track your way to acceptance of someone's behaviour/choices/character when no one around you gets it... (Or maybe they're too hung up on their own agenda to throw you an olive branch...) 1. Research it First profile the person so you can see on [...]

How to accept something overwhelming

TOOT! TOOT!!! All aboard the acceptance express!!! Here's how you can fast track your way to acceptance of someone's behaviour/choices/character when no one around you gets it (or they're too hung up on their own agenda to throw you an olive branch) 1. Research it First profile the person so you can see on paper [...]

The importance of self-care

I'm challenging my free Facebook group - Screw you, I'm choosing me - a lot lately. There's a self-love challenge many are struggling with and this week we're talking about self-care. WHY? Because when we're focussed in on how painful a relationship is, we can get really caught up in that pain, hurt and anger [...]

If you had to choose – would you be connected or independent?

If you had to choose between being connected to people or being alone – what would you choose? If the third pillar on Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs – or the rising statistics of social media users – is anything to go by, most people would’ve said connected. Without any thought – I’d say independent. And [...]

The more toxic or abusive it is – the more addictive it is…

Drugs, alcohol, relationships, exercise, food, work… When people access these things with the intended purpose they’re meant for – they can be great. In fact, some of them are necessary for our survival and can even be considered as “healthy”. Drugs – numb pain Alcohol – for socialising Relationships – for connection Exercise – for [...]